Confidence Building Success

So you have worked very hard to build your confidence. It was a struggle but you finally got there.

You are understandably proud of your accomplishments and decided that you never want to return to the way you were like your old un-safe themselves.

There is no doubt come as a complete shock to you that not everyone seems to be happy with your new, confident self. Some maybe even some that are very close to you, seems like the old, un-sure you, back.

How do you handle this? Well, in a nutshell, you must firmly with them. You must make it absolutely clear that they should have to get used to the new you, you will not be back to how you were.

You have to understand where they came from. Probably feel threatened by the new, more confident you. Clearly the dynamics of your relationship with them has changed. Before they probably had taken over and they were happy with it. Now they can not push you around anymore and they do not like it.

You have to use your newfound confidence, otherwise you lose it, so it is important that you do not backslide. You must make it clear to people around you that you still essentially you, but you have evolved and grown as a person and you do not come back to the way you were before.

If you get stuck, you will find that as people around you will learn to accept the new you – you just need to be clearly, calmly, but firmly, that they are going to have to accept who you are now, because it is the way you will be staying.

You must learn to rise above any personal criticism you can get. Accept that you are not going to all these people around you all the time. You have every right to stay true to yourself, If you do this firmly but quietly, by now you can act as a catalyst for change on those in your circle.

Remember, you can be assertive without being aggressive. You just realize you have a perfect right to your thoughts and feelings and to act in accordance with them and everyone else is just going to have to get used to it.

You’ve worked really hard to overcome your self-confidence issues – too hard not to do everything in your power to keep the new you. This is your absolute right.