There is a Secret to Living Stress-FreePosted by admin on May 28th, 2010

Did you know that though stress is one of the most common struggles faced by people every day, the trick to beating it remains a secret that very few people have heard about? The trick is so simple and yet so different from other approaches that many people overlook it as being too easy. So what is it, you ask? Good question.

To start, it’s important to understand that there is no single cookie-cutter approach to beating stress. What may be very soothing to one person could grate on someone else. Therefore, the first thing you need to understand if you want to lead a stress-free life is that you will not be able to pick up a cookie-cutter “miracle solution” that will work for absolutely everyone. Think about it. Your life is unique. What you do every day is different from what every other person in the world does. Certainly there will be some overlaps, but how you think, your exact order of doing things, and the precise way in which you do them is what makes you an individual - someone who does not fit a cookie-cutter approach to life.

The next thing that must be understood is that stress is actually a natural, healthy thing. It is a part of our self-protection instinct that allows us the “fight or flight” reaction when faced with danger. Stress becomes a problem when it is allowed to creep into our lives and stay there on many different levels, instead of coming and going as needed.

You must also know that although there may be a source of stress of which you are very aware in your life, the actual cause of stress as a chronic problem is something you will need to identify from within your subconscious. It involves many different factors such as your world view, the way you think about yourself and talk to yourself, how you manage issues in your life, and how you deal with problems.

It is your entire way of life that dictates how much stress you’re facing every day, and therefore it takes an overall stress-beating strategy to eliminate that unpleasantness from your life. To do this, simply download your copy of Simple and Stress-Free Living at find out how to live stress-free, starting today

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Do You Suffer From Lack Of Self Confidence And Low Self EsteemPosted by admin on October 6th, 2009

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Overcome Stress By Understanding The SignsPosted by admin on September 14th, 2009

Understanding Stress, is the key to stress management you would be amazed at the connection that stress has on your self confidence.

When your stressed out and tired, everything seems to overwhelm you. Therefore you will begin to doubt your ability to cope with even the smallest tasks.

Understanding stress and knowing what the signs are, will help you manage your stress levels, leaving you calm and focused.

Stess what is it?

It is difficult to define or measure stress. However, stress is generally understood as something bad or dangerous. But the truth is, stress is actually a positive thing.

Experiencing stress is healthy. When we are stressed, our body effectively reacts to situations that might threaten us or upset our balance of some sort.

The body has a natural way of protecting itself. If the body senses that there is something wrong, it responds quickly by giving some signs that are uncomfortable, unnatural and even annoying. Again, this is a good thing since we can recognize that there is something wrong and we can respond to it accordingly.

For example, we start to feel discomfort when we sit on a chair for a long time and so we change our sitting position. The body’s reaction to stressors is just the same.

When we are stressed, our body releases a flood of stress hormones, including cortisol and adrenaline. These hormones give the body that boost so that we can get into action.

Our muscles tighten, heart pounds faster, breathing quickens, blood pressure increases and senses sharpen. These changes are the body’s defense mechanism to react by either “fight or flight” – the stress response.

In practical terms, the stress response gives you the drive to study rather than watch television, helps you to be on your toes when delivering a speech or presentation, helps you to meet challenges, and gives you better focus to sink that game-winning free throw.

But in a certain level, stress begins to cause major damage to your mood, health, relationship, productivity, and even your quality of life.

Since the body cannot distinguish between psychological and physical threats, any stressor is interpreted as one and the same thing.

So whether you are just stressed over a traffic jam, a deadline to beat, or an obnoxious boss, you respond just as strongly as if the situation is a matter of life and death.

When you are constantly stressed, your body’s stress system remains active, which is unhealthy and can cause serious health problems.

Chronic stress can have physiological, psychological and mental effects. It can lead to depression, obesity, sleep problems, digestive problems, autoimmune disease, eczema and other skin conditions, body pains, restlessness, mood swings, and heart problems.

Stress warnings include the following: agitation, poor judgment, constant worrying, inability to concentrate, sense of isolation and loneliness, general unhappiness, irritability, short temper, racing thoughts, and memory problem.

So now you know keep a check on your stress levels it really have a major part to play in your overall well-being.

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Self Sabotage And Low Self EsteemPosted by admin on August 18th, 2009

Self-sabotage is something we do to ourselves when we feel we don’t deserve good things to happen to or for us. There is no logical explanation for why we don’t or won’t allow such things to happen. Self-sabotage is about balance, or should really say Unbalance. It’s about denying your self for so long that you take it all at once. Self-Sabotage is extremely powerful, because most of the time, it bypasses the conscious mind, and is done directly within the realms of the subconscious. An effective way to overcome this mental hurdle is to always remind yourself that you are in the present moment.

Self-sabotage is a means by which a you can absolve yourself of accountability. This is failure without personal responsibility; the means by which we can blame others for what goes wrong. Self-sabotage is what’s lurking in my subconscious. I can feel it.

Self-sabotage is a strategy many of us use to protect ourselves against the possibility of failure. Removing those external obstacles we put in place to avoid getting down to the business of writing the thesis is paramount.

Self-sabotage is when you let your insecurities take control of your life. Often people will self sabotage themselves or their own efforts without even being aware they are doing it.

Procrastination is a type of avoidance. By not doing what you should be doing, you’re avoiding the fears, which are triggered if you did. Procrastination is the postponement of things, sometimes infinitely.

There are individuals who postpone their works to some other time for no reasons. Procrastination is a common human trait and everyone defers things at one time or the other in both personal and professional life. While some habitually delay things, it’s only an occasional problem for some others.

Self-sabotage at the professional level may include criticizing yourself directly in relation to your professional position. Refrain from making negative, frequent, and excessive comments regarding the difficulty, the amount, or the quality of your work.

Self-sabotage occurs when you make choices that are not in your highest good.

These choices may be extreme, as occurs when someone makes choices that cause their life to spiral out of control. Self-sabotage is a major problem, especially with depressives who sabotage the best things in their lives. Be sure you do not set yourself up as a victim either, you will never heal until you let go.

Are you guilty of self sabotage?think about your actions and how you might be getting in your own way.

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Change Your Self Image Change Your LifePosted by admin on July 16th, 2009

How you see yourself is  important because this will affect your behaviour and thinking and how you relate to others.

Likewise, others will respond to you either positively or negatively according to how confident you are based on the image you have about yourself

How you see yourself is often different from how others see you

Your view of yourself is shaped by your unique thoughts and beliefs and you will have a distorted view

You will see yourself in a positive or negative way and both will be biased

You may have a negative view of yourself and if so you are probably highly critical of yourself

Wondering what YOU can do to Improve your Self Image?

Here is a question whether your view of yourself is accurate examine why you see yourself like you do Make any changes you think would help you for example clothes, appearance, hair style, behaviour in certain situations Accept things about yourself that are true and learn to think about them in a positive way Take yourself less seriously and lighten up.

Accept criticism in a constructive way so you can improve and develop Don’t be limited by your internal image, step outside of it and break free, it doesn’t have to control you or keep you down

Acting differently will change how others see you and will also help to change your own attitude towards yourself and your abilities Take up challenges positively and surprise yourself, you are only limited by your perception of self and what steps you are willing to take to make the necessary changes.

But don’t worry, your not alone, there are ways in which you can change the way you feel, about yourself building your self esteem and confidence levels. Your life can take on a whole new adventure.

Be sure to bookmark my super confident woman blog there will be plenty more help and advice on how you can make these changes.

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True Happiness Comes When You Know Your Self WorthPosted by admin on May 14th, 2009

How you feel about yourself plays an important role in your ability to live up to your full potential. The lack of confidence or a poor self-image is the number one obstacle that will prevent you from achieving everything you want in life.

 Certainly we are all capable of holding negative beliefs about ourselves, You know what I mean that nagging little voice that tells you that your not good enough, things will never change so what’s the point in trying.

 However. These negative conversations repeated over and over again simply continue to create self-fulfilling prophecies. Have you ever wondered why you always seem to attract exactly what you don’t want in your life? When you lack confidence you will find yourself seeking the approval of others for reassurance. Because you believe that you have to conform to the expectations of others to fit in and be accepted. You will avoid taking risks for fear of failure. You will always expect to fail and this too becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy!

It is no wonder that the lack of self-confidence is a huge stumbling block. It stops you in your track stifles creativity, and robs you of your dream life. It is time to take control of your beliefs about yourself and those daily negative conversations. You can start with these steps and build on them as your confidence grows

Step One

Correct your posture. How you sit or stand sends out a message to others around you learn to stand like you have confidence, and learn to sit like you have confidence And .you will radiate positive vibes in turn this will boost      your confidence.

 Step 2

Surround yourself with confident and positive people, if you constantly surround yourself with people who have a low self-esteem it will rub off on you. Surround yourself with positive upbeat people this will create a positive atmosphere that you will benefit from. Remember that old saying you are the company you keep

Step 3

 Don’t give yourself a hard time. Don’t be your own worst critic, be your own best friend. After all, if a friend of yours was going through a tough time, you wouldn’t get on their case, would you? No, of course you wouldn’t. Positive self-talk can be one of your best weapons for confidence boosting, so make sure you cultivate the habit.

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